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今日見client，同client握握手
「Wow firm grip！好少女仔會咁firm嘅firm grip。」
嚇一嚇 。
「咁，咁請問咩先算係lady grip？哈哈 ^^””」（尷尬）

返到office之後我都淆一淆，
唔通我過往嘅handshaking approach 都錯咗？
唔通強而有力嘅handshake只係「男性限定」？！ O__O
於是我就google下…..

• Women with a firm handshake make a more favorable impression and are judged to be confident and assertive.
• People with “good” handshakes (firm, web-to-web, calm-to-palm) are evaluated as being extroverted and emotionally expressive.
• Women with a firm handshake were viewed as more “open”.

Ok then =.=….

Wow 然後發現Forbes係2013年寫過一篇有關 Why Women In Business Should Shake Hands 嘅11小steps。

女士們 （especially經常social就好uptight嘅introverts們）～參考下喇：

1. Be the first to extend your hand.
2. Look directly into the other person’s eyes and smile.
3. Stand when being introduced to someone and when extending your hand.
4. Make sure your right hand is free to shake hands. Always shift any briefcases, papers, beverages or cell phones to your left hand before you begin the greeting so you handshaking hand is ready for action.
5. Keep your body squared off to the other person – facing him fully.
6. Make sure you have palm-to-palm contact and that the web of you hand touches the web of the other person’s. Research with salespeople indicates that if customers don’t get this full palm contact, they wonder what the other person is hiding. If so, they may remain uncomfortable for the rest of the interaction and less likely to purchase.
7. Offer your hand with your palm facing sideways. When a person offers his hand with the palm faced upwards, it is considered to be a submissive gesture. Conversely, when someone offers his hand with the palm faced downwards (or twists his hand downward during the handshake) it sends a message of superiority. But people who offer a sideways hand to shake send a message of equality and confidence.
8. Shake hands firmly. Women with a firm handshake make a more favorable impression and are judged to be confident and assertive.
9. Hold the other person’s hand a few fractions of a second longer than you are naturally inclined to do. This conveys additional sincerity and quite literally “holds” the other person’s attention while you exchange greetings.
10. Start talking before you let go: “It’s great to meet you” or “I’m so glad to be here.”
11. Make sure that when you break away, you do not look down. (It’s a submissive signal.)

一路開住Spotify ‘Cozy Evening’ Songlist
一路沖花灑涼, so good~~~~

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“No matter what you do next, the world needs your energy. Your passion. Your impatience with progress. Don’t shrink from risk. And tune out those critics and cynics. History rarely yields to one person, but think, and never forget, what happens when it does. That can be you. That should be you. That must be you.”

– Tim Cook to GWU Class of 2015

今日返學校參加mentorship program
係學生眼中應該係星光熠熠吧
Ivy League, MBA, Investment Banker, Lawyer, Doctor…
聽落好似好legendary，但其實每個人背後都有自己嘅struggle
after all都係一個又一個凡人而已。

畢業就嚟三年，好想寫一篇「落入凡間的三年」。

今日學生問咗我幾條問題，
都係我呢三年嚟，答咗不下一百次嘅問題。

「點解你唔繼續讀上去？」
「點解你唔做ibanker？」
「點解你唔做返engineering嘅？」
「點解你唔留係美國做嘢嘅？」

當然我有好多美輪美奐嘅line-to-take
但其實真正嘅答案好簡單。

一起身望一望whatsapp的family group
這應該是我家才會出現的whatsapp對話吧？哈哈
(3:02am) Dad: where am i?
(3:05am) Mum: I am coming home now
(3:07am) Dad: ma I am lost

正常只有夜歸的頑童，我家有夜歸的父母，五十年不變。

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前日突如其來a series of fortunate events：
首先上網中咗$360和牛餐coupon，
然後公司比賽贏咗兩個special mentions (misfit shine)。

我就知道有d唔對路，邊會咁順利？
哈，果然就「躺著也中槍」，
無喇喇比人插一刀，仲要笑笑口。
under normal circumstances我會demand an apology，
well，但這就是商業社會了。

下面呢句quote講得好。
大家都有自己嘅問題煩惱，
最緊要立刻幫自己搶救，以免血流不止，
最後連累埋身邊心愛嘅人就唔好喇。

真係，如非必要，唔好煩人。
因為我都好怕比人煩。
You Have No Idea What Ive Been Through & vice versa.
所以，可以幫時儘量幫。
但又唔好濫用咗人地嘅“幫”（？）