impromptuz

(Gave up “Poor Economics”…can’t finish the book…moving on…)

Techniques in Handling People

1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Six ways to make people like you

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

Win people to your way of thinking

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

估唔到呆滯嘅事情不斷發生，今日到達咗頂點，我稱之為「pinnacle of orz」。

好彩琴日玩塔羅牌，佢已經比咗啟示我今日嘅事情將會係「炒車」。
而我問有咩advice嘅時候，出現咗呢隻牌 – 星幣九 Nine of Pentacles。

位悠閑的婦女在花園里散步，氣質賢淑溫文爾雅的她，垂著的右手下是幾枚放著的金幣，象征著一切物質面的東西。圖中可見她左背上立著一只聽命于她的獵鷹，獵鷹是生活中一切黑暗粗魯東西的象征，表明婦人已經成功地控制住了，不再為沖動和欲望所動。

應該就是「我可以好grace地hold得住」吧。

 

想繼續保持world class的exposure

不要退步

呢幾日不停發生「呆滯」mode的事情。

Man~ just give me a break please~ 都年末了

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在香港也好、日本也好、大陸也好

其實無論去到什麼地方也好

走進便利店總會讓人有種安心安全的感覺。

Very standard, 咩都有，一個小小避難所。

面對面的重要

文字是冰冷的。電郵whatsapp只是黑白的文字。對方說話的態度/語氣/表情，都是我們單方面推斷而已。 誤會misunderstanding就這樣發生。其實只要出來見個面，來點real time 的conversation，來點body touch（我意思是握手），雙目對雙目，這樣隔膜就會溶化。

做商場讓我認識到很多不同的人，也有過很多有趣的（但當然也有無數棘手的、不愉快的）交談。雖然我是introvert，但我也一定會不捨得這些人和事。 也許一直做商場對我的個人發展有利，但我不想框死自己。難得有flexibility，為何不趁年輕去多嘗試？多用不同angle去看事？希望未來的我不會投訴今天的自己太笨。

宗教

與友人聊到，為何社會會變得如此分化、各人為何都這麼堅持己見？其實一切就等如宗教一樣。只要任何順應你「教規」的事，不合理都可以盲說成合理，甚至可以凌駕法律。只要任何against你宗教的事情，你就會變得非常offended，然後自以為是地鄙視對方的無知。

低頭一族 2.0

這一年我們一家人都變了低頭一族 2.0。我說的是為了看bb。回家按門鈴後。我很自然的就會低頭等待，期待著一個小bb 開門迎接。 小bb跑來跑去，我們就低著頭欣賞著小bb跑來跑去。平時低頭看手機，也低頭看bb。

國、人、黨

對於國、人、黨三者的感情，必須懂得分開處理，我覺得毋須硬要把三者綑綁。 你喜歡美國這個國家，不代表你就要同時喜歡美國人或共和黨。你不喜歡美國，但你可以喜歡Apple的iPhone，喜歡黃石Yellowstone國家公園。