impromptuz

幸好還有書。

1. zoom/Teams開會真係冇辦法專心到。成日都留心唔到。。

2. 飛車黨真係好黑人憎，好自私，嘈醒所有人！

3. 最近開始睇Suits~ 我是自信的哈肥

4. 疫情期間冇戴手錶同耳環。但原來戴手錶都係一種「儀式感」，戴手錶之後，有d「今天我開始運作了」嘅感覺 xd

Lean In呢本書其實2013年已經推出，不過我竟然2021年先睇！ XDD
(天音：你唔係D&I advocate嚟架咩？）
由於呢本書係商務特賣場用超級特價30蚊買嘅，所以都可以highlight得比較放肆哈哈。

係我well craft個book review for 小red書之前，等我寫個第一感受書評先。173頁好快睇完。

• 首先我唔覺得所有女人/男人都需要lean in，呢個係個人選擇。不過我明白sheryl sandberg所講嘅必須達到critical mass in women leadership to run the world先可以帶嚟改變。Let’s break the glass ceiling and keep your hands up~!
• 本書嘅下半部份都係講working mum (career-loving parents as she put it)，所以與我關係不大。但其實無論係丁克 (dink – double income no kids)夫婦或者係選擇單身嘅女性，都一樣有every right to a full life嘅權利架。
• Being a feminist does not mean starting a gender war. 有d人聽到women empowerment會好反感，女人，咁男人呢？其實係about gender equality. 男人可以做家庭主”夫”，女人都可以做C-Suite.
• 其實反而我幾鍾意佢講mentorship個一個chapter。原來can you be my mentor係一個超awkward嘅問題，而且mentorship應該係reciprocal with common interests架。It should be a connection earned by both sides.
• success and likability seems inversely correlated for women.
• lack of confidence can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
• Careers are a jungle gym for creative exploration, not a vertical ladder.
• “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” “Sit at the table.”

我都好fortunate 因為我公司嘅management positions好多都係女性。而我都有一個好supportive嘅partner（b）去全力support我嘅career growth。 反而係長輩嘅傳統思想要再努力d去改變一下。

原來責罵只會帶來驚恐、傷害和創傷。小朋友在被責罵的過程中只是「受驚」，而當中完全沒有學習learning的意味。

最後小朋友就會變得很怕事、唔會做多d，怕take risk，一切只會選擇最安全的option，一切以「唔好比人鬧」為做人原則，明明壞事做盡、卻只會把壞事隱藏。呢個就係今日嘅我。

Education by “fear” of management 最省時，但也是最低效的。